To Dylan & Sofia / by Katie Alyce

You are going to reach moments of feeling anger, feeling pain, be open about these feelings. Do not try to bottle them or hide them. Share them, work them out with whoever has made you feel that way. Even if it is your parents. Use your voice, use your words. You do not have to use vulgar or hurtful language to make your points. Be kind to people, even if they have not been kind to you. You cannot determine the actions of others, you are only responsible for your reaction. Always think about “what’s next?” to anything you do. Will the following result of your decisions be negative or positive? Go through your feelings, whether that be happy, mad, upset, hurt, or at peace. You are allowed to feel, do not ever let anyone make you feel like you cannot. You are also allowed to be vocal about your disappointments, but do it with respect. Do not be a follower, do not feel like you have to fit in, be yourself. There is no “perfect” way of living. You decide what makes you feel happiest in life and you run with it. Please listen to your parents, even when you think they are wrong, they will always have your best interest at heart. We all love you so much, and when you are too scared to ask for help, don’t be. We will never let you fail. When something you used to like, or want in your life is no longer benefitting you, it is okay to let things and people go. You do not have to participate in anything you do not want to, under any circumstance. You make your own choices. Always choose to be happy. When you aren’t happy, understand that it is only temporary. Every single thing in life is temporary, unless you decide to make it permanent. When people try to comfort you by saying “things will get better”, believe them. Trust me baby, life always gets better with time you just have to be open enough to achieve it. You will get your heartbroken, maybe even more than once, do not let that make you give up on love. There are tons of different people, with different motives that will enter and leave your life. Let them. The ones worthy of your friendship will stay. You are going to break hearts, maybe even more than once. Learn from this. Learn to be a better partner. And be empathetic and understanding to the other party, but remember, you do not have to stay. Try your hardest to not make the same mistakes as your father, your grandfather, or me. We are the wild cards of the family and it has landed us in some uncomfortable situations. Be wiser than us, be an example to us. If you ever feel like you have made the biggest mistake in your life, do not be scared to come to us for guidance without judgement. We just want you to be great. Do not limit yourself, do not categorize yourself, and do not compare yourself to others. You are unique, you are brilliant in your own right, and you are perfectly fine just the way you are. Overtime you will find character and physical flaws within yourself, everybody does, because nobody is perfect. When you discover these things, want to change them, even if you think you cannot. You can change. Be optimistic, do not view life with a chip on your shoulder. You both are filled with so much life and creativity at the ages of seven and four, I never want to see that diminish. You are intelligent, you are aware, and you are deserving. I cannot wait to see the people you blossom into. I know I will be proud…